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‘Show you were there’ round up (week three)

Week three of my month-long challenge to get in a photo every day and I’m really proud that I’m still going!

It’s been another pretty wet week here in Swansea, so once again most of my photos were taken inside.  We did venture out a couple of times though, just to the local park, so I think I’ve managed to get a nice variety of photos again, which I’m so happy with.

So, on with the photos!

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Notice anything different in that last photo?  I may have chopped a couple of inches off my hair this week!  What do you think?

If you’re interested you can click on these links to see my photos from week one and week two.

 

#ShowYouWereThere

I’m so, so happy to see that people are starting to join in with this little hashtag of mine!

If you have a photo that features YOU, either by yourself or with your children then please do use #ShowYouWereThere on it over on instagram.

This week I’m sharing these fab photos:

https://www.instagram.com/p/BR0m-4Whyeb/

 

 

https://www.instagram.com/p/BRyLUU7j8SB/

 

 

Thank you so much to Esther from Inside out and about, Sara from Ballsy Mama, Jo from Pickle and Poppet and Wendy from Naptime Natter for sharing your photos this week!

I’d love to see you all again next week, along with anyone else who would like to join in.

Make sure you exist in photos for your chidlren – show you were there!

 

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Stop making excuses and get in front of the camera #showyouwerethere

There are so many reasons we can give for not getting in more photos.  I’m sure if I asked you right now if I could take a quick photo of you, you could immediately give me a handful of reasons why you wouldn’t want me to do it.

I’ve even written a list before, of 8 reasons you shouldn’t have your photo taken.

The thing is, we can call them reasons, but lets be honest.  They’re really excuses aren’t they.

Unless you have a genuine phobia of having your photo taken, you need to stop making excuses and get in front of the camera.

Stop making excuses and get in front of the camera

 

 

Why does it matter so much that you’re in photos?  Sue Bryce said it best:

One day your children will look for photographs of you. What will they have?”

In years to come, your children will look back through the hundreds of photos you’ve taken of their childhood.  And yes, they’ll enjoy seeing themselves growing up.  But you know what they would love and treasure most of all?  Photos of YOU.

So, lets knock out some of those excuses shall we?

 

“I’ve got no one around to take photos of me/for me”

Right, lets get rid of this one first.  Yes, it makes life a lot easier if you have someone around who can act as your photographer for the day.  But not having someone to help is no real excuse for not being in photos!

Take a selfie, set a timer, buy a remote trigger, hell, go all out and book a photographer to get some professional photos taken!  There are so many options, I’ve listed them out in this post – How to be in more photos when you don’t have anyone to take them for you.

 

“I don’t have time”

I get this one.  I really do.  It can feel like a bit of a hassle sometimes, to find/make the time to get in photos.

But it really is just another excuse.  It’s been said again and again, if something is important to you, you will find the time for it.

Make getting in photos more a priority.  It doesn’t have to be every day.  But make a point once a month at least, to set aside a few minutes to be in some photos.  It doesn’t have to take long, especially if you do have someone else to act as photographer for you.

 

“I’m no good at taking photos”

Honestly, please don’t let this one stop you from being in photos.

You can learn so much about photography online these days, I’m sure if you dedicate just a bit of time to it your skills will improve quickly.  And you know what?  Even if your photos are still a bit blurry, or over exposed, or in any way less-than-perfect, it really doesn’t matter.  Think about it, I bet some of your favourite photos of your parents aren’t technically perfect.  But you still love them, don’t you?

Your children won’t care that your photos aren’t perfect, they’ll just care that they are photos of YOU.

 

“No one wants to see photos of me” or “I need to lose weight/colour my hair/hide my massive dark undereye circles before I can be in a photo”

I think if we’re honest with ourselves, most of the time it’s a mix of these 2 excuses that stops us getting in more photos.

We look at pictures of ourselves with such a critical eye.  We seem to be naturally drawn to our flaws and imperfections.

Believe me, I completely get this excuse.  And I have deleted photos of myself in the past that were just really unflattering.  But we have to get over it!  Honestly, you need to get in the photo NOW.

Please don’t wait until you feel you look good enough.  You are good enough to exist in photos right now, just as you are.

 

So there you have it.  4 classic excuses for not getting in front of the camera, all crushed!

Have I convinced you?  Or do you have other reasons for not being in more photos?  Please do leave me a comment and let me know!

 

This post has been linked up with KCACOLS.

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The siblings project – March 2017

It doesn’t quite feel like spring here yet.  We’ve still been having a lot of wet, windy and slightly wild days.  But in amongst that we’ve had some dry spells.  I wouldn’t go quite so far as to say we’ve had sunny days, but we’ve had dry ones.

What I’m getting at with that extremely British, weather-based introduction is that we’ve made it out and about a few times recently.  And we’ve taken the children’s scooters with us.

Nerys had a fab new one for her birthday.  And seeing her whizz round on it has given Rhys the push he needed to give his another go.  And he seems to have almost mastered it.  He’s definitely growing in confidence with it each time we go out.

So after a mixed set of photos last month for the siblings project, this month I have a set of photos, complete with scooters, from one particular trip to Brynmill park.

I’m really loving watching these two scoot around together.

There’s been no competitiveness between them about it, no “look at me, I can go faster than you”.  They’ve just been encouraging each other and enjoying being out together.

Long may that continue!

The Me and Mine Project
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Living Arrows 2017 – 11/52

I remember my mum saying to me that, when we were little, she would always have her camera handy.

She captured some really lovely moments of our childhoods because her camera was often nearby, ready to be grabbed when one of those moments happened.

I had one of those moments the other day.  Nerys was sitting up on our lounge windowsill, and the light was just perfect.

And my camera was handy.  I was able to grab it quickly, before she moved on to play with something else, somewhere else.

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These little moments.

Those little details of childhood.  The top she had for her 3rd birthday that, even though it’s sized 4-5 years, is almost on the small side already.  The blocks that still get played with a couple of years after they were given to her.

And the light.

The perfect light that so often floods onto that huge windowsill.  One day we’ll move from this house.  And I’ll take with me such fond memories of my children playing on that windowsill.

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Anyway, the moral of this story?

Listen to your mother, she knows what she’s talking about!

 

“You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.”

Living Arrows
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‘Show you were there’ round up (week two)

I’m 2 weeks into my month-long challenge to get in a photo every single day.

Last week was relatively easy, as the month started part way through the week so I only needed to take 4 photos.

So this past week was the first full one I had to tackle, and it has been challenging.  We’ve been stuck in again a fair bit, thanks to a combination of wet weather and a sickness bug.

I was quite pleased then, to look back at the week’s photos and see that I had actually managed to get some nice variety again!

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I’m pleased that I’ve given myself permission to include photos like the last one.

While it doesn’t show much of me at all, I think it still shows a lot of ME, you know?  I’m pretty sure when my children are older, one of the things they’ll remember from their childhood is me drinking a lot of coffee!

And these kind of photos add some interest to the project as a whole.  Added together, all the photos will hopefully build up a complete picture of who I am right now.  And that’s the point really.  Making sure there are enough photos of the real me, for my family, for the future.  I’ll be a different person in a few years time, it’ll be interesting to look back and these and remember who I was.

 

#ShowYouWereThere

I’m sharing some of these photos over on instagram as part of the community I’m hoping to build up over there.

I would love it if people joined in, using #ShowYouWereThere.

For now, I want to give a big, happy shout out to Nicola from Mummy to Dex for being the first person to jump in and share some photos with that hashtag!

 

 

As more people (hopefully!) join in, I’ll be sharing my favourites every week here on my blog.  So everyone, get in front of the camera and then get sharing on instagram with #ShowYouWereThere.

I’d love to see you!

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3 reasons you should print and display your photos at home

One of the big themes on my blog this month is how important it is for parents to get in more photos.  It’s so, so important to me to make sure that I get in enough photos with, and for, my children.

The thing is though, I’m really guilty of taking all these photos, maybe sharing them on social media or here on my blog, and then leaving them hidden away on the hard drive of my computer.

I do have some photos printed out; we have a little collection of prints on our fridge, a couple in frames around the house, and a family portrait up on the wall in the lounge.  But there are so many more photos I could print, and so many more ways I could display them.  So this post is as much for me as it is for anyone out there reading it.  A little reminder and prompt to get printing.

Here are 3 reasons why we should all make more of an effort to print and display our photos at home.

3 reasons you should print and display your photos at home

3 reasons you should print and display your photos at home

1.  It boosts our children’s self-esteem.

This one is first because I think it’s the most important, and most interesting.

Displaying photographs of our children around the house can really help bolster their self-esteem.  There’s a study that was carried out in Tennessee in the 70s that involved children regularly taking  polaroid photos of themselves.  They then used the printed photos to create scrapbooks, over a 5 week period.  At the end of those 5 weeks the researchers found a 37% increase in the children’s average self-esteem behaviours.  All of which suggests that regularly seeing and interacting with photos of ourselves can really help boost self-esteem.

Several psychologists have since expanded on this, stating how this can be applied to displaying photos of our children, and our family units, in our homes.

David Krauss, a psychologist from Ohio has this to say about it:

“I am very conservative about self-esteem and I think placing a family photo someplace in the home where the child can see it every day without having to turn on a device or click around on a computer to find it really hits home for that child this sense of reassurance and comfort. They have a certainty about them and a protecting quality that nurtures a child. It let’s them know that they are loved and cared for”

And Cathy Lander-Goldberg, a clinical social worker from Missouri, adds this:

“Displaying photos prominently in the home sends the message that our family and those in it are important to one another, and we honor the memories we have experienced”

Krauss also adds to his point about printing photos by suggesting that we should hang family photos in our children’s bedrooms so that they are one of the last things they see before they go to sleep.  This has been on my to-do list for ages, and I think this is the reminder I need to just get it done!

3 reasons to print and display photos at home

 

2.  It reinforces memories.

There are a few parts to this.  Firstly, having photos on display of your children when they were babies can act as a lovely prompt for a bit of nostagia on days when they’re pushing your buttons.  And studies have shown that nostalgia can be really good for us.  It’s been found to make us feel happier and can be a really valuable tool in boosting our emotional well-being.

Secondly, having photos in our homes from fun times as a family can be a great trigger for conversations with our children.  We can talk with them about the day the photo was taken, remind them of how much fun we had together.  This can help to reinforce the memory for them, as well as help them feel more secure and happy as part of the family unit.

 

3.  It gets conversations going.

We have photos on display in our house of members of our family that we don’t get to see that often.  When we look at these photos with Rhys and Nerys it sparks conversations about their relatives.  The photos act as reminders of who people are, and of good times we’ve shared with them.

And they prompt the children to ask questions about the people in them, and prompt me to tell them stories about them that they might not know.

There’s a photo of me on our fridge, from when I was little.  I’m sitting on the work surface in my parents’ kitchen, and I’m small enough to fit under the cupboards.  When we look at that photo it makes my children laugh to think of me being that young.  And it gets me talking with them about my childhood and the memories I have from when I was little.

Anything that can spark conversation like that with my children has to be a good thing!

 

So there you have it, 3 reasons we should get more photos printed and displayed in our homes.  

How often do you actually print out your photos?

 

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-You are good enough to exist in photographs-

You are good enough

There are lots of reasons why we might not want to be in photos.  And right at the top of the list is normally the fact that there’s something about the way we look that we’re not that keen on.

I know there are times that I look at photos of myself and focus on the fact that I’m heavier than I’d like to be, or that my greys are peeking through.  And I know sometimes I hesitate to smile widely in photos because my front teeth cross.

But I push through that.  

I remind myself that my children don’t care about any of those things.  When they’re older and they look back at a photo of me laughing with them, they won’t see my teeth, or my hair, or the extra pounds I’m carrying.

They’ll just see me.  Having fun with them.  Loving them.

I may not be picture perfect but I’m good enough.

So this is my message to anyone out there who doesn’t feel attractive enough, or thin enough, or anything enough to be in photos.

-You are good enough to be in a family portrait.

 

You ARE good enough.

You are more than good enough.

And your children need you to know that all they’ll see in photos of you in the future, is you.

The wonderful, perfectly imperfect person that they love.

 

Cuddle Fairy