Nerys turned to me on our walk yesterday, and told me she was a bit sad.
When I asked why she said it was because of all the things they’ve not been able to do at school this year. There’ve been no school trips. No class photos. No assemblies. She misses the days back in year 1 when the 3 classes across the year group would all have their doors open and they would all mix together throughout the school day.
She even misses going to the dinner hall to eat her lunch with everyone.
She has friends that she’s been close with since Rising 3s who are now in a different class to her, which means she’s barely seen them this year. When they were at school they would sometimes see each other at play time, but had to chat from a distance, staying in their bubble’s allocated area of the playground. And now, obviously, she doesn’t see them at all.
She seems to be coping with everything so well, and so does Rhys, that it’s easy to assume they’re fine. So I’m relieved she opened up to me about this. It meant we could talk about how rubbish it all is. How it’s ok to miss things, to feel sad about all these things everyone is missing out on.
It also meant that we could talk about how wonderfully special they’ll all feel when we’re able to do them again.
We talked about how amazing it will be when the classes can mix again at school. How special it will feel to have playdates at her friends’ houses. How exciting it’ll be when we can go to Bluestone on holiday again.
She seemed happy again by the end of the conversation, but I’m acutely aware that this isn’t the end of it. Thinking about how great things will be in the future doesn’t take away the sadness of not being able to do them now really, does it. Especially not when you’re six and you miss your friends and your teachers and your family members that you’ve not seen in a long time.
I’m not really sure what the answer is, when I can’t fix everything. I think for now the answer just needs to be hugs, and extra time reading together and watching Descendants on repeat together. And probably chocolate.