#ShowYouWereThere round up

Show you were there round up

It’s almost the end of the month, and it’s Sunday so that means it’s time for another round up from my little Instagram community #ShowYouWereThere.

In case you’ve not come across it before, #ShowYouWereThere is all about getting more parents in more photos, both with and for our children.

 

My first pick for this round up is from Lauren at Scrapbook blog.  It’s such a lovely family photo, and makes me want to head down to our local woods for a good stomp around!

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We spent an hour in the woods stomping about after voting and school pick up today. My brain is set to burst with work and logistical things going on (like finding child care after school and car insurance and so on and so forth) but some fresh air, some bluebells and some family time was a welcome distraction! Roll on the 3 day weekend! What's your favourite way to distract yourself from things? . . . #ParentsinthePicture #Showyouwerethere #myeverydaymagic #developinglife #ourcandiddays #motherhood_magic #watchthemgrow #worldoflittles #mycolourfulkids #raisingthoserascals #our_everyday_moments #adventuresofchildren #motherhoodsimplified #theirwonderfulworld #thehappynow #childhoodunplugged #familyphoto

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Next up is this gorgeously floral photo from Sabrina at The Mummy Stylist.  I love the happy faces in this picture, and the absolutely beautiful setting.

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It’s another coat photo for #whatmamaworemonday with @heyitsromeca @stylemotherbeat – I promise there’s a pretty dress underneath 😂 It’s one from the weekend when it bucketed it down with rain as we arrived at this beautiful garden. Rain, sun, rain, hailstones, sun – what a crazy Saturday it was! But what I absolutely love about this photo is that I will always remember this as the day the kids CHOSE to have a day out with me. . . . You see, the plan was actually for me to sneak out while they were at Nana’s and go to Eastcote House Gardens to practice some photography. Then they were like “I wanna come too!” I told them “I’m only going to take photos of flowers, it’s going to be sooooo boring for you.” Nope, they still wanted to come, Lily had her coat and boots on in a flash. When we got there, Tyler was pointing out flowers for me, Lily woke in the buggy and was excited to be somewhere new. We had cake in the cafe but the rain really wasn’t stopping, so we went out and took some photos in the rain, my hair drenched. They were running and giggling through this wisteria tunnel and around again, having so much fun. It was such a surprise – they liked hanging out with me to take photos of flowers! The rain was not stopping so we headed back to my car. Typical of course, the sun came out as we reached the car! So I took them to the miniature railway on the way back as they had been so good. A fun day can be had – whatever the weather! ☀️ ☔️ 🌧 Did you get caught in the rain on Saturday?

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My third pick this time is another brilliantly joyful family photo from Emma at Sophie Ella and Me.   I just love photos like this one that are so full of smiles that you can’t help but smile too.

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“Your little family is the best team you could ever have”. I can’t wait to spend some quality time together over half term 😍❤️ – 📸 @heathercapturephotography • • • #themagicineveryday #besttimescaptured #letthembelittle #littlefierceones #candidchildhood #uniteinmotherhood #theordinarymoments #childhoodunplugged #lifecloseup #developinglife #myhappycapture #littlelivelaughlove #ourcandiddays #momswithcameras #raisinggirls #girlmama #dailyparenting #candidchildhood #momswithcameras #littleandbrave #letthembelittle #oureverydaymoments #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodthroughinstagram #childofig #pixel_kids #showyouwerethere #parentsinthepicture #motherhood_magic

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My last choice for this round up is from Kim at OddHogg.  This is such a lovely photo, and a really nice tribute to her little birthday boy in the caption.

 

Thank you so much to everyone who is using #ShowYouWereThere, I love seeing your photos popping up over on Instagram, they always make me smile so much.

 

Now my turn.

I’m testing the waters in a new niche for my photography business – personal brand photography for entrepreneurs, small businesses and creatives.  And I needed some photos of me to use as I start to talk about it.

So I grabbed my tripod and remote and took a few self portraits.  This is one of my favourites, that really feels like me.

 


If you’d like to join in with my little community and possibly be featured in my next round up (with a nice link back to your blog!) then just share a photo of yourself over on instagram using #ShowYouWereThere.  It’s all about getting more parents in more photos.  And if you’d like to take part in my guest post series ‘The photo I’m thankful for’ then take a look at this post or email me at thisgloriouslife@gmail.com for more information.


 

show you were there round up

Show you were there round up

We’re at the start of a new month, it’s Sunday, and it’s time for another round up from my little Instagram community #ShowYouWereThere.

In case you’ve not come across it before, #ShowYouWereThere is all about getting more parents in more photos, both with and for our children.

 

My first pick for this round up is this gorgeous photo from Wendy at Naptime Natter.

There is so much more to this than just a lovely bump photo.  Wendy has spoken openly and beautifully about her experiences with depression and has been so honest throughout this pregnancy about her fears.

I think it’s such an important issue that she’s bringing out into the open, and this photo’s caption says it’s all perfectly.  Please do go and take a look at her feed, especially if you’re experiencing any of these feelings yourself.

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Pregnancy after postnatal depression… * * * I’m scared, a baby is coming that we did not plan. I love her but she terrifies me, I’m terrified of what might happen when she is born. I see the midwife hand her to me in my mind, Sometimes I just feel nothing. In my darkest thoughts I don’t even look at her, I place her back in the midwives arms and want nothing to do with my baby. I cry at my antenatal check when my midwife hands me leaflets for local support groups. Tears flow because I want to be thinking about the baby cuddles that are to come, Instead we sit and talk and plan for the worst. 11 weeks to go before she’s here. I want to be excited but I’m drowning in fear. Do I only have 11 weeks left? Do I only have 11 weeks left to live without the dark cloud hanging over me? I love her but she scares me. I want her to arrive but I don’t. I want to believe things will be ok but I struggle. There are small glimmers of hope shining through this darkness. I’ve beaten PND before. I know what to expect. Family and professionals are aware of my struggles. I take a pill every night that helps the chemicals in my brain balance out. I know there’s strength inside me somewhere. It’s ok not to love every second of pregnancy. Depression during pregnancy is real. Fear during pregnancy is real. Anxiety during pregnancy is real. Trepidation of reoccurring postnatal mental illness is real. I’m not weak. You’re not weak. We’re human. We’re real. We’re real women and women are strong. 💕 #maternalmhmatters #maternalmentalhealthawarenessweek #maternalmentalhealthmatters #antenataldepression #postnataldepression #postpartumdepression #emmasdiary #mumsmatter #coolmumub #29weekspregnant #pregnancy #thirdtrimester #babybump #gurglebumpgallery @pandas_uk @perinatalmhpartnership #pregnantanddepressed #showyouwerethere #honestmltherhood #honestmothering #myhonestmotherhood

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Next up is this fairytale-esque photo from Katy at Hot Pink Wellingtons.

I love that Katy decided to get in this photo herself when her boys didn’t cooperate and create the fairytale image for her!

 

My third pick this time is from Donna at What the Redhead Said, and it just really made me smile.  I do love a good reflection-in-sunglasses shot!

 

My last choice for this round up is from Jules at Pondering Parenthood.

I love seeing Jules’ photos every week as we both join in with the Living Arrows linky, and even though we’re past the potty training stage I’ve been enjoying reading her honest posts about how it’s all going with her oldest.  If you’re potty training at the moment then head over to her feed for some moral support!

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🚽💩Potty Training Day Day 6 💩🚽⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Yesterday started with a pretty frank conversation with M. I asked her if she wanted to keep trying with potty training, or go back to nappies for a little while, and try again with the potty in a few weeks. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ At first, she wanted to wear a nappy because she wanted to go out somewhere. So I explained that we couldn’t just swap between nappies and the potty, and that if she was going to wear nappies for the day, then that would mean wearing a nappy to start nursery on Friday. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ At which point, she was adamant that she wanted to wear knickers. I explained that if she wanted to keep wearing knickers, then she needed to use the potty, rather than going wherever she liked, as she had the day before (that was fun 😬). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Well, that chat seemed to do the trick yesterday as she only had two accidents all day, and both of them were en route to the potty. Of course I piled on the praise and M delighted in emptying her potty into the toilet herself, and competing with me to see who could make the most bubbles when we washed our hands. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Let’s hope the good progress continues today! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ P.S. if you like the look of my @sylish_mum1 breastfeeding hoodie, then pop over to ponderingparenthood.com to read my review and nab yourself a discount code! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #pottytraining #gentlepottytraining #pottytrainingtips #pottytraininggirls #pottytrainingtime #pottytrainingproblems #pottytrainingsuccess #mama_pals #parentsinthepicture #showyouwerethere #beinthepicture #getoutside #150hoursoutside #outdoorplay #takeyourkidsoutside

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Thank you so much to everyone who is using #ShowYouWereThere, I love seeing your photos popping up over on Instagram, they always make me smile so much.

 

Now my turn.

Last weekend we went for a little walk along the beach, and stopped along the way to take a few family photos for the me and mine project for April.

We only took a few and I think this one is possibly my favourite of the bunch.

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If you’d like to join in with my little community and possibly be featured in my next round up (with a nice link back to your blog!) then just share a photo of yourself over on instagram using #ShowYouWereThere.  It’s all about getting more parents in more photos.  And if you’d like to take part in my guest post series ‘The photo I’m thankful for’ then take a look at this post or email me at thisgloriouslife@gmail.com for more information.


 

A month of photos of me

A month of photos 2019 (#ShowYouWereThere)

This year is the fifth year in a row that I’ve completed a little personal photography project in the month of March.

I started back in 2015 calling it the ‘mummy was there’ project.  I felt so strongly about making sure that I actually existed in photos with and for my children, that I wanted to do something to make sure it happened.  So for the month of March I got in a photo every single day.

That first year was hard but I still absolutely love the photos that I took that month.  And so I decided to carry on and complete the project every March.  Since that first year it’s evolved a bit, away from the ‘mummy was there’ title and more tied in with my Instagram community #ShowYouWereThere.

The concept is the same though, to get in a photo, one way or another, every day for the month of March.

Here are the photos from this year’s project:

A month of photos 1

 

A month of photos 2

 

A month of photos 3

 

A month of photos 4

 

A month of photos 5

 

A month of photos 6

 

A month of photos 7

 

I used a remote trigger for most of these photos which definitely makes the whole thing easier than trying to take them with outstretched arms or with the timer.  I did still find it quite hard this year though.  I think with the children getting older I’m finding it harder to take photos with them that feel natural and unposed.

I also found that, with them being in school all day long, I took more photos of just me this year.  Not necessarily a bad thing, but it did make me have to think a bit more creatively to make sure I didn’t end up with 31 almost identical photos of myself.

Looking through this collection of pictures though, I’m pretty pleased.

I think I did get quite a nice variety in the photos in the end that capture me and my life as it was in March quite nicely.  Although it has made me laugh to look back at last year’s photos and realise that some of them are awfully similar to this year’s!

 

This little project of mine is definitely a challenge each time, but it’s something that I’m so happy to make the time to do every year.  I love that there are all these photos from my children’s early years that actually have me in them.

I still feel just as strongly now as I did back in 2015 that it is so important for us parents to exist in photos.

This quote from Sue Bryce always gets me when I read it,

“One day your children will look for photographs of you. What will they have?”

It makes me feel so much better knowing that my children will have photos of me to find on that day in the future when they go looking.

 

When did you last make a point of getting in front of the camera?  If it’s been longer than you’d like then make a point of taking a photo today.

Can family photography bring you closer

Family photography: How can it bring your family closer?

Choose family photography to make memories and cement that feeling of closeness.

Having your own family is the dream for many. What is there not to love about welcoming your own little bundle of joy into the world and creating memories you can treasure for a lifetime? Being together as a family is what helps certain people live through each day, so how can you capture those memories you create? Family photography is a big one; one that is becoming more and more popular as the years go by.

 

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Having a family photoshoot experience has a whole host of benefits for you and your family. Not only is the experience a fun one in the short term, but you’ll also be able to keep those prints for as long as you wish. Looking back on a time you really bonded as a family is enough to brighten anyone’s spirits!

So, how can family photography bring your family closer? Here are a few of the many advantages:

Capture a moment in time.

Having a photoshoot with your family can capture those genuine emotions and show you just how strong your family bond is.  The finished outcome in the form of printed photographs can become treasured memories, something you can place up on the wall in your home to remind you of a specific time where you had fun and bonded further.

Have fun.

Photography allows you to really come out of your shell once you feel comfortable in front of the camera. For those who feel a bit awkward, it’s good to know the other members of your family are in the same boat. To really enjoy the experience, breathe, relax and even share an inside joke or two between yourselves to lighten the mood and create genuine smiles for the camera!

Capture milestones.

Family photography doesn’t have to be just a spur of the moment activity. It could actually be a perfect experience for an important birthday or to capture some of your child’s first steps or movements. Not only this, but your photographer can capture your real-time facial expressions and the joy you’re feeling inside at any particular moment.

Be natural.

Looking at the camera and smiling isn’t the only way to take a photograph. This is something you don’t do every day, so an unnatural smile is something photographers will probably steer clear of. Instead, they will probably encourage you and your family to interact with each other to create genuine smiles, laughter and emotions.

A loving pose.

The right pose can make all the difference in a photograph. Without it, the shot will seem awkward – perhaps leading people to wonder if you’re a group of strangers having your photo taken together! Make sure your bodies are close together, showing you’re a loving family. Your photographer will probably arrange you in terms of family relationship, perhaps the older generation first or in the back of the shot and the younger ones second or at the front.

Family photography can certainly bring you and your family closer.

It’s true that you are at your happiest surrounded by the people you love and through family photography, you can really bring your family closer and share some special moments together. Have you ever been on a photoshoot, perhaps by yourself or with your family? How did you find being in front of the camera? Share your experience in the comments!

The post was in collaboration with Nousha, professionals in family photography. For more information about their services or to get in touch with their photography team, visit their website: https://nousha.co.uk.

Making time to get in more photos

How to find the time to get in more photos

As a parent it can feel like life is non-stop, a constant whirl of activity.  And while you might be aware that you want to make sure you’re in more photos with your children, it can be really hard to find the time to actually do it.

It’s easy to grab your camera or your phone and snap some photos of your baby.  But it somehow feels so much harder and time consuming to get in front of the camera with them.

I think it’s so important that we do it though.  So here are my top tips for finding the time to get in more photos.  Both with and for your children.

How to find the time to get in more photos

 

Remember why you want to do it.

If you focus on why it’s important to you to get in more photos then you’ll be more keen to make the time to do it.

Think about the future, and how you want your children to have plenty of photos of you to look back on one day.  Use that feeling to get yourself fired up and motivated to jump in front of the camera more.

You could even print out a reminder to yourself, just with the something like the words ‘exist in photos’ and stick it on the fridge as a daily reminder.  When something matters to you it becomes easier to find the time for it in your life.

 

 

Lower your standards. 

If you tell yourself that every photo of you has to be perfect then you’ll always have an excuse not to do it.

Stop focusing on perceived perfection and start thinking about the memories that your children will enjoy seeing when they’re older.  Let go of this idea that every photo has to be perfect.  Or that you need to look perfect to be in a picture.  You are absolutely good enough to be in a photo just as you are.

Slightly blurry photos are better than no photos at all.

Photos of you in a messy lounge are better than no photos at all.

Honestly, your children love you and they’ll just want to see you in these photos in years to come.

 

 

Make it easy for yourself.

The more steps involved in taking a photo, the less likely it is that you’ll bother doing it.

If you have to go upstairs to fetch the camera, and set up a timer, and sort out the focus and so on, you’ll talk yourself out of taking the photo before you even start.

So keep your camera handy.

If you spend most of your time at home downstairs then keep the camera there too.  And get yourself a remote trigger for it so you don’t have to run back and forth using the self timer.

Basically, make it as easy as possible to get in these photos as often as you can.

 

 

Learn your camera settings.

Following on from the last point, if you’ll be using a proper camera rather than your phone, get to know all the settings so you’re ready to go quickly.

 

 

Make it part of your family routine. 

Like with any new habit it can be hard to get into the practice of taking photos regularly.

So try making taking family photos part of your routine.  I struggled for ages to take regular family photos until I really committed to doing the Me and Mine project.  This project involves taking a family photo every month.  I mark it in my calendar to make sure we so it each month.

Until it becomes a habit you need to choose to make getting in family photos a priority.  Put it on your calendar and make the time to get it done.

 

 

Try a project to fire you up.

The thing is, with things like this it’s not really about finding the time to do it.  It’s about getting motivated enough to make the time.

One way to do this is to challenge yourself to complete a project.

It could be as full-on as a project 365, where you take a photo every day for a year.  Or you could do what I do and just pick a month where you’ll take a photo a day.  Another idea is to do a 10 on 10 project where you take 10 photos on the 10th of each month.

Get creative and see what ideas you can come up with to challenge yourself.

 

 

Life really is busy.

If you’re not actually motivated to get in more photos it’s all too easy to just tell yourself you don’t have the time to do it.  That you’ll do it at the weekend.  Or next month.

The thing is, the time goes so quickly.  Before you know it months and months have gone by and there are still hardly any photos of you.

So get fired up.  Get to know your camera and always have it handy.  Make it a priority to get in photos with your family.

Make the time to make it happen.

So in the future your children will have a whole pile of photos of you to cherish.

Less stress family photos

How to make taking your own family photos as stress-free as possible

Since January 2017 I’ve been taking a family photo every month as part of the Me and Mine project.

I actually attempted the project in 2016 I think but didn’t last long at all with it.  It seems like such a simple thing to do, but honestly I have really struggled with it at times over the last few years.  But it is so worth the effort each month to take these photos and I absolutely love having them to look back on.

If you don’t ever really take any photos of you with your family because it seems too hard, or you think it’ll be too stressful then this post is for you.

Here are my top tips for taking your own family photos and making the process as stress-free as possible.

How to make taking your own family photos as stress-free as possible

 

1. Lower your expectations

I mean, really lower your expectations.  If this is the first time you’re trying to take your own family photos then try not to expect too much from this first attempt.

Let go of the idea you have in your head of the perfect family photo.  This way you can hopefully not put pressure on yourself and your family to capture this ‘perfect’ shot.  Try instead to focus on getting a photo that is perfectly you.

Keep in mind that the weird grimace-like smile that your 4 year old does for the camera might be a bit frustrating right now when all you want is a ‘nice’ photo.  But in a few years time you’ll look back at it and love how much that fake smile captures who he was at this time in his life.

 

2. Make life easier with the right equipment

If at all possible use a tripod and a remote trigger to take your family photos.

Set your camera up on the tripod and then get your family where you want them in the frame.  Then jump in with them and snap away with the remote trigger.

If you don’t have a remote then use the timer function on your camera.  This can be actually be a great way to get more natural smiles from your children as they laugh at you frantically running to get in the shot each time!

If you don’t have a tripod then get creative looking for places to prop your camera up.  We’ve used walls and benches at the park quite a lot when I’ve not wanted to take the tripod out and about with us.

 

3. Have a plan of attack

Sometimes it can work to take family photos on the spur of the moment, but for the most part it’s worth making a bit of a plan in advance.  Think about where and when you want to take the photos.  Try and plan them for a time when everyone will have been fed recently and no one is due a nap!

Have a quick chat with your children before you start and explain to them that you’d like to take a few quick photos of the family together and that you would really like them to just cooperate.  Use chocolate bribes if necessary.  If everyone knows what you want them to do before you start you’ll have a better chance of getting some good photos.

When you start taking the photos do the more posed, everyone-looking-at-the-camera type shots first.  Children will lose interest and get restless quite quickly so get these pictures done first and then you can move on to more relaxed photos.

Taking your own family photos with less stress more fun

 

4. Think outside of the traditional portrait poses

Once you’ve got the more posed photos that you want you can try a few other options.

You can encourage everyone to hug each other, to look at one another, to tell each other jokes.  Tickling little ones is a great way to get fun, happy family photos.  You don’t have to stay still either, you can set up the camera and then get photos of you all walking towards it.

These kinds of photos where you interact with each other, instead of the camera, are quite often my favourites.  And they’re generally easier and less stressful to take than when you’re worrying about having everyone look at the camera.

 

5. Don’t worry too much about clothing

If you want to then go for coordinating pieces rather than matching outfits, but really the best, less-stress option is to just let everyone wear what they’re comfortable in.

You’ll get much better pictures when everyone feels like themselves.

Taking your own family photos with less stress

 

6. Be prepared to take a lot of photos

The beauty of digital photography is that you can take way more photos than you actually need.  So use this to your advantage when you try to take your own family photos and just keep taking picture after picture.

Take more photos than you think you’ll need, to have a better chance of everyone being in focus, with their eyes open and looking where you want them to be looking.

 

7.  Stop and check your photos as you go

Following on from the last point, make sure you stop regularly to check the photos you’ve taken.   You don’t want to take hundreds of photos to only realise at the end, when everyone has had enough, that none of them are actually in focus.

So stop now and then to check the photos.  Make sure the settings are ok and that the pictures aren’t too dark or blown out, and check that you’re all in focus.

 

8. If all else fails, try again another day

Remember that this is meant to be fun, so if things just aren’t working out stop, and try again another day.

Some days you’ll find that someone in the family just isn’t in the mood to have their photo taken, or you just won’t feel happy with the pictures you’re getting.  On these days it really is just best to stop, take a break, try again later.

 

 

When was the last time you had a photo of you and  your family all together?

Hopefully these tips will help give you the confidence to head out with your family and take some if you’ve not done it for a while.

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A month of photos 2019 – week one

For the fifth year in a row I’m doing a personal photography project this month.  Basically for the whole of March I’m planning on taking a photo of me, of some kind or another, every day.

I first started this challenge in 2015, back before I started my Instagram community #ShowYouWereThere.  Back then I called it my ‘mummy was there‘ project, because that was (still is) what it was all about.  Taking the photos with me in for the children, to show that that I was there too.  I wasn’t always just stuck behind the camera recording their childhood, I was part of it too.

Here are the photos from the first week and a bit of this year’s project.  A mixed bag of windswept outdoor photos, pictures that don’t show my face but still show me pretty well, and photos of me with my family.

Show you were there 2019 week 1

 

I’ve always found this project to be quite hard at times, trying to come up with different ideas for photos to take, and getting a balance between simple ‘photos of me’ and photos that capture a bit more of my life as it is right now.

I think I’m off to a pretty good start so far this year though, although it is a bit harder to get photos of me with the children now they’re both in school all day long.  It’s good though, it forces me to think a bit more creatively and focus on the moments and activities I want to record this year.


If you’d like to read a bit more about this challenge that I set myself every year, and see how much the children have changed, then go and check out all my photos from 2015, 2016, 2017 and 2018.