making changes for healthier family life

Making changes for a healthier family life

As my children get older I’m getting more aware of them watching me and learning from my actions rather than just what I try to teach them directly.

I want them to grow up healthy and strong, and so as a family we’ve been looking at what we can do and what changes we can make to have a generally healthier family life.

making changes for a healthier family life

Focus on food

A few months ago Steve and I started a bad habit of having pudding every night after dinner.  It would’ve been fine if we were having something like yoghurt and fruit, but instead we were having cornettos or magnums.  Really tasty, but really not necessary and not great to add a good few hundred calories to our daily intake.

So recently we’ve put a bit of a restriction in place, and are now, for the most part, saving those treats for the weekend.  So we still get to indulge now and then, and it actually does feel more of a treat because it’s not an everyday thing.

As for the children, we do let them have something sweet after their dinner, but if they still pester for more food before bed we’ve been making it a piece of fruit and a glass of milk rather than more indulgent snacks.

 

Talking positively

I’ve recently started exercising regularly again, mainly doing workout dvds in our lounge.

Sometimes I get up early in the morning to do it in peace, other times I do it in the daytime and let the children watch or join in if they’d like to.  I’ve realised that it’s good for them to see me doing it, and to talk positively about why I’m doing it.

I want them to see that I find it hard at times, that I struggle but I keep trying.  I talk to them about how I will stick with it and after some practice my body will get stronger and it will feel easier.

Mostly, I talk to them about the fact that I’m doing it to be stronger and healthier, not thinner.

 

Sorting out smoking

I’ve never smoked at all.  Several of my friends at school did, and there were a few times that they jokingly tried to get me to join in but honestly I never really felt any pressure to do it and never really saw the appeal.

My husband, on the other hand, has been a smoker for years.  He has seriously cut back though, from the amount he used to smoke when we first met.  And he’s been making a real effort over the last few months to cut back even more, and he’s doing really well with the help of vaping.

There’s still a lot of research to be done into the long term effects of vaping, but the NHS is currently supporting it as a way of quitting smoking.  I would like it if my husband could just stop smoking altogether but I think this gradual approach of vaping instead of smoking cigarettes is working for him better than suddenly quitting.

With his e-cigarette he can gradually reduce the amount of nicotine, so hopefully he’ll stop craving it so much and in the end stop completely.  There are various shops on the high street now where you can discuss the best e-cigarette and liquid for your needs, or you can visit a vape shop online to see what options there are.

 

Getting active outside

There are so many benefits to spending time outside as a family, and we’ve been making the most of the nice weather lately and getting out for walks together.

Nerys has always loved heading outside to the beach or the park, but these days Rhys would quite often prefer to stay in and play on the computer.  We’ve found though that once we get him out the front door he absolutely loves it, and is really happy to run and jump and expend some of his large amounts of energy.

Now the children are a bit older we’ve found that we can go for longer walks with them without too many complaints which is great for all of us, and for me especially trying to get my 10,000 steps in every day!

 

How do you stay healthy as a family?  Have you made any changes recently towards a healthier lifestyle?

 

Disclosure: this is a collaborative post

Family of four on Swansea bay

Me and Mine – May 2018

In 2017 we managed to get a family photo every month for the me and mine project, which I’m still really proud of.

It seems like it should be quite easy, to snap a quick family picture each month, but it’s something I’ve found strangely tricky at times.  One thing that really helped me complete the project last year was to relax the rules a little bit.  If I realise right at the end of a month that we’ve not taken a family photo yet, I don’t panic about it.

I’ve decided that I would rather ‘cheat’ and take a photo a few days into the next month than rush a photo on the last day, when no one is really in the mood and the lighting is rubbish and so on.

This is what I did for May this year.

We had a few opportunities to take family photos last week, with it being half term and Steve being off work.  But it just didn’t happen.  So our family photos for May ended up being taken at the beginning of June.

And I feel the same way about it that I did on the few occasions last year that this happened.  I’m really glad that we waited.

Me and mine May 2018

me and mine may 2018

We could’ve taken our photos at the end of May.  But they would’ve been taken inside, on a grey gloomy day, when none of us were really in the mood to do it.

By cheating the system a little bit, and taking them a few days late, I have photos that I really love.

I actually took our tripod down to the beach with us, knowing that I wanted to get these family pictures and I’m so pleased that I did it.  I thought I would feel a bit self-conscious about it, but I really didn’t.

I don’t think anyone gave us a second glance to be honest.

And it was so much easier to get these photos than it would’ve been if I’d had to balance the camera on our backpack or something.  I’m not sure I want to start carrying the tripod around with me every time we go out somewhere, but it is something I’ll definitely do again on days I know I want to take a photo with all of us in somewhere like the beach where there’s not an easily available bench or wall to put the camera on.

Do you take family photos regularly?  How do you go about it; with a tripod or by balancing the camera wherever you possibly can?!

Living Arrows

Living Arrows 2018 – 23/52

Half term finished on a lovely happy note for us, with glorious weather for spending a morning at the beach.

We knew it would be quite a warm day, so planned everything around the tide times so that we could all have a bit of a paddle in the sea.  You might not know this but we have one of the highest tidal ranges in the world at Swansea bay.

When the tide is out here it is really out, and it’s quite a trek to get down to the water if you want a paddle.  So, knowing this, we got down to the beach for 10am yesterday, when the tide was just starting to go out again.  Which meant that we all got to have a good splash around in the sea, and Rhys ended up with his shorts off, sitting and letting the gentle waves come in around him.

Living Arrows

We actually bookended our whole week with trips to this beach.

On Monday we just walked along it though, to get to the Marina and up to the top of the Meridian tower for a drink in the Grape and Olive.  We’d mentioned to Rhys that we might go up there around the time of his birthday for a treat, but we just hadn’t had the chance until last week when Steve was off work.

The sky bar in the Grape and Olive really is right at the top of the tower and the views from up there are absolutely amazing.

We spent most of our time up there spotting various local landmarks while enjoying our drinks.  If you’re ever visiting Swansea it’s well worth a visit, even if you do what we did and just have a quick drink and check out the views.

The rest of our half term week was spent swimming at the National Pool and pottering around at home and in the garden.

It was pretty laid back which seems to be our style when it comes to the school holidays.  No big days out, no trips away, just time spent together.  I know I’ve said it before but we’re so lucky to live where we do, because we really don’t need to go away anywhere to get that holiday feeling.

With the beach so close, and whole of Gower right there, I’m pretty pleased I chose to call this place home.

Living Arrows
living arrows

Living Arrows 2018 – 22/52

I was wondering how to start this week’s post, and in my wondering I started thinking about the quote behind it:

“You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth”

I don’t really think I’d given it that much thought before, but it actually fits really nicely with the way I think about being a parent.

My mum has always told me that your children are only lent to you.  They’re not yours to keep forever, it’s your job as a parent to, ultimately, let them go.

It’s bittersweet, and sometimes I want to reject that idea completely and hold on as tight as I can to my children.  But I know she’s right.  And I’m reminded that I’m doing my job as a parent pretty well in this respect when I see how happily my children go out into the world these days.

My in-laws picked them up from school on Friday, and had them for a sleepover that night.  On the Friday afternoon Nerys and her Nana stopped by our house to pick up their overnight things, and rather than come in and see me Nerys decided she would rather wait in the car, seeing as it was raining out.

She waved to me and blew me kisses from the car, and was perfectly content with that.  And I just thought, how wonderful is that.  That she’s so happy with her grandparents.  I always feel that it’s a sign of my children having a secure attachment to me and their dad when they’re happy to be away from us.

Still, it was lovely when they came home the next day, full of hugs and stories.

living arrows

Your children really are just lent to you.

So I will soak up all the moments and memories I can while they’re still here and still mine.  I will record these days of fairy wings and plaits and cheesy smiles.  And I will trust that when the time comes and they really do step out into the world on their own they’ll do so with confidence, secure in the knowledge that they are loved unconditionally.

 

Living Arrows
#ShowYouWereThere round up

‘Show you were there’ round up

It’s Sunday morning, and that can only mean one thing.

Time for another round up from my little Instagram community #ShowYouWereThere.

My first pick is from Amy at The Smallest of Things.

I love that this photo captures a moment and a memory that means so much to Amy and her family.  And seeing this photo has reminded me that we have some lovely big kites that we should take out and let loose on the beach one day soon!

https://www.instagram.com/p/BixIkFlhl5R/?tagged=showyouwerethere

 

Next up is this fab summery shot from Amy at Very Much So.

It feels like another lovely moment captured, and I just really love how Amy’s dress seems to match the flowers so perfectly!

 

There’s a distinctly summery vibe in my third pick too, from Donna at What the Redhead Said.

I’ve never been to Hurst Castle but it sounds like such a lovely day out, and I love this father/daughter moment that Donna captured on their way there.

 

My last pick for this time is from Rachel at Mini and Mabel.

I just really love how the gorgeous, tall houses make Jude seem so small but he’s still so easy to spot in the scene in his yellow coat!

https://www.instagram.com/p/BjB98_JBWsb/?tagged=showyouwerethere

 

Thank you so much to everyone who is using #ShowYouWereThere, I love seeing your photos popping up over on Instagram, they always make me smile so much.

 

Now my turn.

I’ve been thinking a lot about happiness recently, and how so many times in the past I’ve held back a bit and been almost afraid to let myself feel truly happy.  I’m trying to be more aware of times when I might do this, and looking out for opportunities to just have fun and let more joy into my day.

Last week one of those opportunities came up as Nerys and I stopped off at the park on our way home from school one day.  For the first time in years I hopped on one of the swings and had a go, and it was silly and it was fun and it was great to just really relax and feel completely happy in that moment, swinging up high while my daughter played on the slide.

show you were there

When did you last join in and play at the park?

 

If you’d like to join in with my little community and possibly be featured in my next round up (with a nice link back to your blog!) then just share a photo of yourself over on instagram using #ShowYouWereThere.  It’s all about getting more parents in more photos.  And if you’d like to take part in my guest post series ‘The photo I’m thankful for‘ then take a look at this post or email me at thisgloriouslife@gmail.com for more information.

scared of being too happy

Letting go of the fear of being too happy

If you ask people want they want from this life, most of them would say that, ultimately, they just want to be happy.

Happiness seems to be something that we’re all looking for, but at the same time actually letting ourselves be truly happy can be really quite scary.

I know that I’ve wasted a lot of time over the years, not letting myself enjoy things as much as I should, for a few different reasons.  It all comes down to this strange fear though, this fear of being completely happy.

I decided a while ago to try and focus on the good things more, to invite much more joy into my life.

And part of that involves letting go of this fear of being truly happy.

letting go of the fear of being too happy

I think in a way I’ve always been like this.

But it was an episode of Dawson’s Creek that really made me think about it.

I know, that sounds really silly, but it’s true.

You know the episode where Mitch, Dawson’s dad, dies?  In the run up to the accident Mitch is all about how good his life is, how happy he is.  I’m sure there’s a scene where the camera sort of sweeps around him as he stands outside their house, looking around in a ‘wow, isn’t life wonderful’ kind of way.

letting go of the fear of being completely happy

 

Then the next thing you know he’s in the car and he’s dropped his ice cream and that’s that.

Aside from the fact that Mitch deserved better than death by ice cream, this episode came with the lesson that if you ever get that ‘looking around in wonder at how happy you are and how great life is’ feeling, then something horrific and traumatic must be just around the corner.

My best friend and I still talk about it now.  Most of the time we sort of joke about it, but there’s still that underlying feeling though, that there’s some truth in it.

That we shouldn’t let ourselves feel that kind of complete happiness because it won’t last.

And not only will it not last, it will in some way trigger something negative to come along.

The fact that this idea is a plot point in a hugely popular, main stream TV show seems to prove how common this feeling is too.

It’s as if we’ve all been conditioned to believe that there has to be a price to pay for feeling happy.

That there has to be a balance, so if we’re really happy then it follows that we must soon be really sad to even things out.

The thing is, that is true of life.  It is a mixed bag and we will all experience joy and sorrow at various times.  But I think I need to let go of this feeling that there is a causal link between the two.

Being happy doesn’t cause us to then be sad.

Bad things will happen, regardless of how happy or unhappy we are in the run up to them happening.  Not letting yourself feel truly happy won’t prevent the bad things from happening.

I wonder though, if another part of it is this feeling that if we let go and feel true happiness then we’ll be completely unprepared for hardships or upsets that might come our way.  So staying in a state of semi-happiness is better.

But, are we ever really prepared for the hard times?  No matter how much we worry about things, I don’t think it makes it any easier to deal with them if they do actually materialise.

It’s like that line in the Sunscreen song:

Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum.  The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday

We can worry and hold ourselves back from true happiness all we like, but it still won’t help us or prepare us for the real troubles that come along.

So, I think it’s time to let go.

To let go of this fear and to just embrace every scrap of happiness that comes our way.

I’m not necessarily saying we should cherish every single moment of our lives.

I’m saying that we should stop worrying so much about what could go wrong, and celebrate all the many little things in our lives that are going right.

We need to learn from our children, who experience life so openly, so joyfully.

A few weeks ago we had a spell of glorious weather, and spent a good few hours at the beach.  We dressed the children in their swimming costumes, so they could have a play in the sea.  I took the camera along because I wanted to capture this first proper paddle of the year.  And as I watched them play with my husband in the water, I started thinking about the last time I actually paddled myself.

I couldn’t actually remember when it was.  See, I’m always the one holding back.  Holding back from really relaxing and having fun and letting go.  With the excuse of being the one with the camera.

So I handed it over.

I took my shoes and socks off and splashed around in the water with my children for the first time in way too long.

It was silly.  It was fun.  It was wonderful.

To just be in that moment, to drink it all in, to laugh with my family and, in that moment, feel truly happy.

That’s what life should be I think.

I mean, life is tough; it comes with so many challenges and dramas and tears.

But it’s also pretty damn amazing.

It comes with love and beauty and hope.  So surely when things are good, when we look around and feel happy, we should grab that happiness and truly feel every last bit of it.

 

What do you think?  Have you ever felt this fear of being truly happy?

Keep Calm and Carry On Linking Sunday
Sachet of spatone being taken out of handbag

Keeping my energy levels up with Spatone

I have been a mum for a little over 7 years now, and I have spent a fair chunk of those years feeling tired.

My children generally sleep through the night now.  And, to be fair, on the nights that they do wake up thanks to a bad dream or needing the toilet or whatever other random reason, they seem to settle back to sleep quite quickly.

I’m nowhere near as tired now as I was in the first year of Nerys’ life when I was up so many times each night I lost count.

But life is still really quite busy, and I have still been feeling tired even though I’m lucky enough to get a decent amount of undisturbed sleep at night.

So I’ve been looking at what I can do to try and get (and then keep) my energy levels up throughout the day.  I’ve been drinking more water, have been trying to hit 10,000 steps each day and fit in some regular exercise thanks to my old workout dvds.  I’ve also been looking at my diet, and have realised that I don’t think I get enough iron from the food I eat.

So I’ve been taking Spatone liquid iron for a month or so now, to increase my iron levels to help maintain my energy levels.
keeping energy levels up with spatone

 

I’ve been taking the apple flavour Spatone, which comes in a box of 28 individual sachets.

If you’ve not heard of Spatone before, it’s basically sachets of iron-rich water from Snowdonia national park.  The apple version that I’ve been using also contains apple concentrate and vitamin C, which helps our bodies absorb the iron more easily.

Box of spatone liquid iron sachets

It might seem a strange thing to mention but I like the fact that the box is quite compact and is actually full up with sachets, rather than a lot of empty space.

I keep the box out on the worktop in my kitchen and it’s really easy to reach in and grab a sachet in the morning, to start my day off well.

open box of spatone liquid iron sachets

If you don’t have time in the morning to take one, or just prefer to have it a bit later in the day, then the sachets are a great size to pop in your bag and take out and about with you.

They’ve really been designed to make taking them nice and easy, and without the side effects people often seem to get from taking iron in tablet form.

sachet of spatone being taken out of handbag

I tend to have my Spatone first thing in the morning, mixed in with a small glass of orange juice.

It’s recommended that you wait at least half an hour after taking it before you eat or drink anything else, especially things with caffeine in them.  This works quite well for me, because I tend to wait to have my breakfast (and my coffee) once I’m home from doing the school run.

If you prefer to eat breakfast almost as soon as you wake up, then you could have some Spatone mid-morning instead.

You can add a sachet to some fruit juice, or just drink it as it comes, straight out of the sachet.  The main thing is to leave a bit of time between taking it and eating/drinking anything else.

glass of juice and spatone sachets

I’ve been using Spatone for a good few weeks now and am definitely finding it’s helping me to feel less tired.

I also love the fact that getting the iron my body needs helps support a healthy immune system and improves cognitive function.

One of the things I notice when I’m tired is that I get really foggy-headed and this has definitely improved since starting this new routine of taking Spatone every day, along with drinking more water and getting more regular exercise.

While supplements shouldn’t replace a healthy, balanced diet, I find it really reassuring to know that my body is now getting the iron it needs, so that I can maintain the energy levels I need as a busy parent.

 


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