5 ways to meet new mum friends

Becoming a parent is such a wonderful experience, but it can also be overwhelming, scary and downright lonely.

Whether you’re the first in your group of friends to have a baby or you’ve recently moved to a new area and don’t really know anyone at all, it can be really hard not having other mums to talk to.

If you’re ready to go for it, here are 5 ways you can get out there and meet some new mum friends.

5 ways to meet new mum friends

1. Get online

Putting yourself out there and trying to make new friends can feel quite scary to start with.

You can ease yourself in though by starting off online.

Websites like netmums are a good place to start.  Netmums has local pages where you can find out about classes and events in your area, and you can normally find a chat group there too to start talking to other local parents.

Another option is to head to Facebook and look for local parenting groups there.  Then it’s just a case of taking a deep breath and joining in with conversations or reaching out and introducing yourself.

 

2. Make the most of waiting rooms

When you’re pregnant you’ll spend a fair bit of time sitting in waiting rooms to see the midwife or to go for blood tests.  And it doesn’t stop after the baby is born.  You’ll probably head to the surgery quite regularly to see your health visitor and for baby’s jabs.

Make the most of this time spent sitting and waiting and get chatting to other mums there who look like they’re open to talking.  These kind of situations give you a great opening as you can just ask how old their baby is, what their name is and so on.  Nice simple conversation starters!

 

3. Brave babygroup

Venturing into the world of babygroups can be quite scary, but they are a wonderful way to make new mum friends.

I’ve written a post about going to baby group for the first time, so head over and give it a read, especially if you’re shy and really feeling nervous about it.

A lot of places will have organisers who’ll be happy to introduce you to parents with babies the same age as yours.  If not then have a wander round and look for another mum who seems to be on her own to go and start a conversation with her.

 

4. Try a class instead

If simple babygroups aren’t really your thing then try a baby-related class instead.

There are so many options these days, from baby signing and yoga to swimming and gymnastics, there’s bound to be something that you and your baby would enjoy.

These classes are all great opportunities to meet other mums, and again you have the common ground of having babies so it’s a bit easier to get talking.  If you’d rather do something for you than your baby, then things like buggy fit exercise sessions are another great option.  And you can always suggest going for a coffee after the session as a reward for your hard work, and to carry on chatting.

Meet new mum friends at the park

5. Visit child-friendly places

Sometimes you can meet new mum friends just by heading out to child-friendly places.

So take your little one to the play park and to feed the ducks.  Go along to the local library, lots of them have rhyme time sessions that are really popular and you can foster a love of books at the same time.  See if there is a community centre near you that you could visit.

 

I know how isolating it can feel when you first have a child and don’t really have any friends who are experiencing the same things as you.  If you head to the right kinds of places though you can meet so many potential new friends who will understand everything you’re going through.

Once you’ve taken those first steps of getting chatting to people you can take your new friendship one step further and ask them if they want to meet in the park one day, or come to your house for a playdate.

Just remember that pretty much every mum you meet will be feeling the same way as you and will be happy to have someone else to chat to.

One last thing though.

When you do get chatting, make sure to introduce yourself.  And I mean, give them your name and make sure you get their name too.

I have spent far too long calling people ‘so and so’s mum’, and after a while it’s almost too awkward to ask them what their name actually is!

 

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  1. Fiona Cambouropoulos 05/08/2018 / 12:32 am

    Baby groups were the best for me, my NCT friends are still good friends 20 years on. When we moved I joined toddler groups and classes to make friends, it does work because you have a common interest in your children. Looking back it is the easiest time of life to make friends outside of childhood. #KCACOLS

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      12/08/2018 / 3:28 pm

      That’s it, isn’t it, you naturally have something in common which makes the whole process of getting talking and making friends that bit easier! How lovely you’re still so close with your NCT friends too! x

  2. PEACHY and MOMMY 05/08/2018 / 6:16 am

    Other than the few close friends I have that are in the mommy boat, the only conversations I’ve had with other moms have been at the playground. Not much else to do as we watch our toddlers run around together. Besides, if our little ones can be social with each other there is little excuse for us to be antisocial. I have yet to build those relationships beyond the playground though. #KCACOLS

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      12/08/2018 / 3:26 pm

      I actually wrote a post recently on ‘essential tips for asking out a new mum friend’ if you want to try taking things beyond the playground! I think sometimes though a chat while the children play is all we need, just someone in that moment to connect with and talk to. x

  3. Vicky 09/08/2018 / 6:24 pm

    Brilliant tips. It’s so important to have Mum friends! #kcacols

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      12/08/2018 / 3:21 pm

      Thank you, it really is important I think, to have people to chat to who understand what it’s like and what you’re going through. x

  4. shan 09/08/2018 / 10:29 pm

    It’s a bit sad that most of the new friends that I’ve made recently are also online and mum bloggers. I met most of my best friends whilst my children are at school and we had a naughty wine drinking mummy club. Kind of like a play date with hummus, crudites and a bit of wine. Naughty! #KCACOLS

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      12/08/2018 / 3:20 pm

      Sounds like the best kind of play date! And I think it’s an amazing thing to have online friends, you can be there for each other in a completely different way to the friends that you see in person. x

  5. Carol Cameleon 10/08/2018 / 7:07 pm

    Baby groups were definitely the place for us to be! We made lovely friends through that and some of the children went to the same pre-school too. Lovely memories AND I was eventually known as Carol too. Bonus! #kcacols

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      12/08/2018 / 3:18 pm

      Oh it’s quite a magical moment when you get called by your actual name isn’t it! x

  6. Sarah | Mummykind 11/08/2018 / 10:04 pm

    Baby groups were great for meeting new mums! But actually the best thing I’ve done for parent loneliness is blogging – I’ve got online relationships with loads of other parents and bloggers and it’s weird to think that there are these people on the internet supporting me and I’m supporting them too!

    Thank you so much for linking up to #KCACOLS! Hope to see you again next time!

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      12/08/2018 / 3:17 pm

      That’s a great point actually, online friends are amazing, you can’t really call someone or pop round to their house at 3am when your baby’s not sleeping, but chances are if you go online you’ll find one of your internet mum friends is also awake and online, happy to offer some support! x

  7. Twicemicrowaved tea 11/08/2018 / 11:19 pm

    It’s surprising how easy it is to strike up conversations with other mums once you get over the initial nervousness. I’m naturally quite reserved and so I had to really push myself to join classes and groups when my little girl was still a baby, but once I managed to get through the door (which was a huge effort for me!), it was so much easier than I thought. You might not always meet life long friends, but you’ve always got something in common that you can make small talk about while your children play. I’m still in touch with a couple of people from those groups and now that our babies are pre-schoolers we see each other for occasionally for playdates. #kcacols

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      12/08/2018 / 3:13 pm

      I think you’re right there, it can be so scary to walk through the door but quite often once you’re in it’s not as bad as you think it’ll be. x

  8. Ann Hickman 12/08/2018 / 1:52 pm

    It can be pretty tough. I only really found mum friends lately but it does take a bit of effort and sometimes a bit of confidence too! #kcacols

    • This glorious life
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      12/08/2018 / 3:11 pm

      It can be really hard, especially if you’re quite a shy person. I really struggled at first but am so pleased I pushed myself to go along to baby groups and talk to people, I made friends there who helped me through so many tough times when my children were smaller. x

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