-Try a thing you haven't done three times-

Try things three times

As we were driving home from school today we were chatting about trying things.  Specifically, in this instance, trying different foods.

Every day at school the children have a snack, and I will always ask them what it was and if they ate it.  Nerys told me today that she didn’t want the cucumber that was offered to her, but she did eat the apple.  Then she told me that one day last week, she tried some pear, but she didn’t like it.

And I told her that was fine.  No one likes every single food.  But the important thing was that she tried it.  And that maybe one day she can try it again, because she might find she likes it then.

She wasn’t convinced by that!

But I think it’s a good approach to life in general.  We should try things before we make up our minds about them.  And we should possibly try them more than once, because our tastes and opinions can change over time.

This week’s quote fits this thinking perfectly for me:

“Try a thing you haven’t done three times. Once, to get over the fear of doing it. Twice, to learn how to do it. And a third time to figure out whether you like it or not”

Try a thing you haven't done three times quote

I’m sure there have been occasions in my own life where I’ve not taken this advice, in fact I’m sure if my parents read this they’ll be laughing at how things have changed.  I’m pretty sure I took a lot of convincing to try new foods when I was younger!

But I think it’s something I’ll really be keeping in mind in the future; for new foods and for everything else new in life.

I just know that sometimes it can take a long time for me to try things for a second, or third time!  When I first started writing this blog I looked into using WordPress, and it overwhelmed me so much I went and used Weebly instead.  It was months and months before I decided to give WordPress another try and moved my blog over!  I’m so glad I did though.

Maybe going forward I’ll try not to leave it quite so long next time, between trying something for the first time and the second (and third) time!

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‘Show you were there’ round up (week two)

I’m 2 weeks into my month-long challenge to get in a photo every single day.

Last week was relatively easy, as the month started part way through the week so I only needed to take 4 photos.

So this past week was the first full one I had to tackle, and it has been challenging.  We’ve been stuck in again a fair bit, thanks to a combination of wet weather and a sickness bug.

I was quite pleased then, to look back at the week’s photos and see that I had actually managed to get some nice variety again!

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I’m pleased that I’ve given myself permission to include photos like the last one.

While it doesn’t show much of me at all, I think it still shows a lot of ME, you know?  I’m pretty sure when my children are older, one of the things they’ll remember from their childhood is me drinking a lot of coffee!

And these kind of photos add some interest to the project as a whole.  Added together, all the photos will hopefully build up a complete picture of who I am right now.  And that’s the point really.  Making sure there are enough photos of the real me, for my family, for the future.  I’ll be a different person in a few years time, it’ll be interesting to look back and these and remember who I was.

 

#ShowYouWereThere

I’m sharing some of these photos over on instagram as part of the community I’m hoping to build up over there.

I would love it if people joined in, using #ShowYouWereThere.

For now, I want to give a big, happy shout out to Nicola from Mummy to Dex for being the first person to jump in and share some photos with that hashtag!

 

 

As more people (hopefully!) join in, I’ll be sharing my favourites every week here on my blog.  So everyone, get in front of the camera and then get sharing on instagram with #ShowYouWereThere.

I’d love to see you!

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3 reasons you should print and display your photos at home

One of the big themes on my blog this month is how important it is for parents to get in more photos.  It’s so, so important to me to make sure that I get in enough photos with, and for, my children.

The thing is though, I’m really guilty of taking all these photos, maybe sharing them on social media or here on my blog, and then leaving them hidden away on the hard drive of my computer.

I do have some photos printed out; we have a little collection of prints on our fridge, a couple in frames around the house, and a family portrait up on the wall in the lounge.  But there are so many more photos I could print, and so many more ways I could display them.  So this post is as much for me as it is for anyone out there reading it.  A little reminder and prompt to get printing.

Here are 3 reasons why we should all make more of an effort to print and display our photos at home.

3 reasons you should print and display your photos at home

3 reasons you should print and display your photos at home

1.  It boosts our children’s self-esteem.

This one is first because I think it’s the most important, and most interesting.

Displaying photographs of our children around the house can really help bolster their self-esteem.  There’s a study that was carried out in Tennessee in the 70s that involved children regularly taking  polaroid photos of themselves.  They then used the printed photos to create scrapbooks, over a 5 week period.  At the end of those 5 weeks the researchers found a 37% increase in the children’s average self-esteem behaviours.  All of which suggests that regularly seeing and interacting with photos of ourselves can really help boost self-esteem.

Several psychologists have since expanded on this, stating how this can be applied to displaying photos of our children, and our family units, in our homes.

David Krauss, a psychologist from Ohio has this to say about it:

“I am very conservative about self-esteem and I think placing a family photo someplace in the home where the child can see it every day without having to turn on a device or click around on a computer to find it really hits home for that child this sense of reassurance and comfort. They have a certainty about them and a protecting quality that nurtures a child. It let’s them know that they are loved and cared for”

And Cathy Lander-Goldberg, a clinical social worker from Missouri, adds this:

“Displaying photos prominently in the home sends the message that our family and those in it are important to one another, and we honor the memories we have experienced”

Krauss also adds to his point about printing photos by suggesting that we should hang family photos in our children’s bedrooms so that they are one of the last things they see before they go to sleep.  This has been on my to-do list for ages, and I think this is the reminder I need to just get it done!

3 reasons to print and display photos at home

 

2.  It reinforces memories.

There are a few parts to this.  Firstly, having photos on display of your children when they were babies can act as a lovely prompt for a bit of nostagia on days when they’re pushing your buttons.  And studies have shown that nostalgia can be really good for us.  It’s been found to make us feel happier and can be a really valuable tool in boosting our emotional well-being.

Secondly, having photos in our homes from fun times as a family can be a great trigger for conversations with our children.  We can talk with them about the day the photo was taken, remind them of how much fun we had together.  This can help to reinforce the memory for them, as well as help them feel more secure and happy as part of the family unit.

 

3.  It gets conversations going.

We have photos on display in our house of members of our family that we don’t get to see that often.  When we look at these photos with Rhys and Nerys it sparks conversations about their relatives.  The photos act as reminders of who people are, and of good times we’ve shared with them.

And they prompt the children to ask questions about the people in them, and prompt me to tell them stories about them that they might not know.

There’s a photo of me on our fridge, from when I was little.  I’m sitting on the work surface in my parents’ kitchen, and I’m small enough to fit under the cupboards.  When we look at that photo it makes my children laugh to think of me being that young.  And it gets me talking with them about my childhood and the memories I have from when I was little.

Anything that can spark conversation like that with my children has to be a good thing!

 

So there you have it, 3 reasons we should get more photos printed and displayed in our homes.  

How often do you actually print out your photos?

 

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Parents, we need to get in more photos – #showyouwerethere

Parents, can you do something for me?

I want you to grab your phone and/or your camera and scroll back through the photos you’ve taken recently.  And while you’re at it, take a look at the photos you’ve shared on instagram and facebook over the last few weeks.

How many of those photos are you in?

I would imagine that the answer is somewhere between ‘a few’ and ‘none at all’.

As parents we tend to be the ones behind the camera.  Recording every little detail of our children’s lives.  But so often there’s one huge thing missing from those photos.

Us.

I’ve written before about the photographer Sue Bryce and how she feels so strongly about the idea that we need to exist in photos for our loved ones.

She talks about this idea that we take all these photos of our children, but the ones they will love the most when they’re older are the ones of their parents.

“One day when you child is 40 years old, they will look at that photograph…and your child will treasure it more than any other photo they have seen of themselves.”

I’ve been taking this message on board and for the last 2 years I’ve spent the month of March taking a photo of myself every day.

I chose March because Mother’s day is in March.  And this feels like a good way for me to celebrate motherhood.  To celebrate my role as mummy, by making sure I exist in photos for my children.

The reason I do a photo a day for a whole month is because it pushes me.  It forces me to move past those feelings of worry about the fact that my hair needs washing and to just get on with it.  And while I may not love the way I look in every photo, I still LOVE every photo.  They capture moments between me and my children that would just exist in my memory otherwise.  My daughter won’t remember me sitting and playing on the carpet with her when she was 2 years old, but the photo I have of that moment will exist to show here I was there.

This will be the third year I tackle this challenge that I set myself.  And I would really love people to join in with me.  I don’t expect people to get in a photo every single day, but I really would love to see more parents in more photos.

I’ve been using a specific hashtag for my photos for a while and am now hoping to create a proper instagram community around it.

So if you have photos with you in, please do share them on instagram with #ShowYouWereThere.

I want to carry on getting in photos once March is over, once a week at least.  And I’ll be posting my favourites on my blog, along with the ones that I love that other people have shared over on instagram.

So if you’d like to feature in one of my round ups please do get using #ShowYouWereThere, with any photos that you’re in.  It can be you on your own, or with your family.  It can show your face, or not if you’d rather.  It can just be your hands holding your favourite mug, or your shoes next to your baby’s teeny ones.  Any photo that shows you were there.

#ShowYouWereThere

New guest post series

If you’d like to get more involved then I have another plan up my sleeve!

I’m looking to start a guest post series featuring people’s favourite photos either of themselves, or of their parents (or someone else they love).

What I’m really hoping is for people to look beyond, “I love this photo of me because my make up looks perfect and I was at my skinniest”.  I’m hoping people will share photos that show moments that mean something to them.  A photo of them feeding their baby.  A moment of them laughing at a joke their toddler just made up.  A picture of their parents that they’re really pleased they took while they had the chance.

I wrote a post about why we need to take the damn photo, even if we feel a bit awkward about asking people to get in front of our camera.  I’ve dragged my parents out in the garden on a few occasions for photos, even though I knew they would rather not do it!  And I am so, so pleased that I did it.  My parents live a fair way away, so I love having these photos of them up in my house.  And in years to come, I will absolutely treasure them.

So, if you have a photo that you would like to share for this guest post series, please do send me an email at thisgloriouslife@gmail.com and I can send you some more information!

In the meantime, grab your phone or your camera and make sure there are some photos of you next time you scroll make through!

 

 

Naptime Natter

 

Keep Calm and Carry On Linking Sunday
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Me and mine – February 2017

Do you ever feel that there are some lessons in life that you have to learn over and over again?

For me, one lesson that I’m still learning is about time.

I’ve always been a procrastinator.  And I always seem to rushing out of the door at the last minute.

We call it last-minute-itis in my family, and I seem to be a chronic sufferer.

There’s a quote that is so fitting for me, and that I’m trying to learn from:

The problem is, you think you have time.

I do seem to have this underlying feeling that there is plenty of time.  And then time inevitably runs out, yet I’m always surprised when that happens!

Where am I going with this?

Well, it’s time for another post for the me and mine project.  A project I’ve started but failed to complete for the last 2 years.  The reason I keep letting the project slip is because I think I have time.  Every month I think I have plenty of time to get my family out in front of the camera.  But then the end of the month rolls around all too quickly, and it’s just not been done.

This month I was all geared up for taking photos this past weekend.  But the weather had other ideas.  It was wild out there.  Really not the weather for a nice family photo!

In the past I’ve let this trip me up.  I’ve abandoned the project all too easily.

But this year I want to see it through.  So here we are.  A last minute family photo.  Me and mine.

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It might not be the photo I wanted, or had in mind.  But you know what, I still like it.

When I look back at it I’ll remember the wildness of that evening.  Trying to get everyone on the bed and smiling, in between crazy swordfights and general before-bed mayhem.

I’m so glad we went for it, and I didn’t just give up on the project again, before it really got off the ground.  I need to remember to always choose a less-than-perfect photo of my family over no photo at all!

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Blogs I’ve loved this month

I read a lot of blogs.

I think most bloggers do.  We spend quite a bit of time reading what other bloggers have written.

Some posts I read as part of linkies that I join in with.  Sometimes I read other people’s blogs as a way of showing my support and being active in the blogging community.

A lot of the time I read blogs just because I’m drawn to them.  I see a post being shared on social media and the title intrigues me so I go and have a read.

I thought it would be nice to share some of the blog posts I’ve enjoyed, in case anyone is looking for something good to read!

So here is my list of blogs that I’ve loved this month:

Blogs I've loved this month

 

Loneliness, motherhood and making mum friends 

Kiri from Kizzy, Izzy and Baby wrote this fab post about the loneliness a lot of women feel when they first become mothers.  It can be so hard adjusting to this new role and we really can feel alone in it if we don’t have ‘mum friends’ yet.

What I really loved about Kiri’s post is her list of reasons why you should give mother and baby groups a go if you’re feeling lonely as a mum.

I was so nervous about going to baby groups, I put it off for months after Rhys was born.  But I’m so, so happy that I did go in the end as I made some really good friends there who’ve seen me through a lot of tough, sleep-deprived times.

 

My blogging kit

If you’re not a blogger then you might want to skip past this one.  But I really loved seeing behind the scenes a bit and reading what things Donna from what the redhead said uses in her blogging life.

I find it really interesting to see what other people do, and how they work.  It’s human nature to be a bit nosy isn’t it?!  And I loved picking up a few tips like getting wifi memory cards to make life much easier when it comes to getting photos off my camera!

 

Which songs transport you back in time?

I love music, and the power it has to take you back to a really specific time or place.  So I really enjoyed reading this post from Pen at the single swan.

The way she writes about the different songs and the memories that they bring back really does show how powerful music is.

For what it’s worth, the whole of Dido’s album ‘No angel’ takes me right back to my first year of University.  And this mashup of ‘wake me up’ and ‘never gonna give you up’ will always remind me of the day Nerys was born, it was in my head the whole time!

 

40 life lessons for my kids (I wish I’d know as a kid)

I really loved this post by Prabs at absolutely prabulous.  As the title suggests, it’s a list of things she wants her children to know and to think about as they grow up.  Some of it is light hearted and funny.  Some of it brought tears to my eyes.

But I loved every bit of it.

 

Words to live by – Go with the flow

This is number 16 in a series of blog posts written by Alana from Burnished Chaos.

She has a notice board in her home where she puts a quote or saying each week for her family.  This particular week their words were ‘go with the flow’ and I just really enjoyed the post Alana wrote around those words.

I do tend to believe that things happen for a reason, and that the best thing we can do is stop fighting against our circumstances and just go with the flow.  Like, if you’re in a traffic jam.  There’s nothing you can do to change the situation, but you can change your mindset about it.  Getting stressed and angry about it won’t help anyone, so just go with it and make the best of it!

 

So there we have it.  5 blogs that I’ve really enjoyed reading this month.

Have you read anything that’s stood out to you recently?

Mr and Mrs T Plus Three
The hardest job kids face today is learning good manners without seeing any

How can our children learn manners if they never see them

Manners are important to me.

It’s important to me that my children say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’.

I get really wound up when people are rude.  What message does it send to our children if adults around them don’t take a few seconds out of their day to be polite and kind?-The hardest job kids face today is learning good manners without seeing any- (1)

I came across this quote the other day, and I really liked it.

How are our children supposed to learn manners if they never see them used?

Steve and I have always been polite to each other.  Our children have always heard us saying please and thank you in conversation.

Of course, we’re not perfect.  Far from it.  And I’m sure there are times when we’re annoyed with each other and aren’t as polite as we should be.

But as much as possible we try to model the behaviour we would like to see in our children.

So that for us means being polite to each other, and to them.  How else are they supposed to learn about good manners?

Do you agree?  How important are manners to you and your family?

 

Cuddle Fairy