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What a burlesque dancer can teach us about being ourselves

This has been one of my favourite quotes for ages and I think it has such a strong message.

It was said by Dita Von Teese, the burlesque dancer, and I suppose she’s probably had a fair bit of experience dealing with people who don’t like her particular kind of peach.  I mean, she is, as far as I know anyway, one of the most well known burlesque dancers.  She is very good at what she does.  But there will always be people out there who don’t approve of it.  Or who prefer their dancers to be blonde!  And rather than focus on the negative aspects of that, by simply accepting if we can free ourselves from worrying about it.

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We will never be able to make everyone happy.  We will never be able to make everyone like us.  So why worry about it?!  Whatever we do, no matter how well we do it, there will always be people who just don’t like it.

So we need to stop worrying about what other people think about us, and just be ourselves.  You can try and fit into a different mould, but there will still always be people who don’t like it.  So why not just be yourself?

Quite freeing really isn’t it!

I’ve written more about being yourself in these posts:
Masks
Encouraging children to be themselves

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Masks

Last week I wrote a post about the things I want my children to say ‘yes’ to as they grow up.  One of the big ones for me is that they say ‘yes’ to being true to  who they are, to embracing all their quirks and really just being themselves.

As I was writing that part of the post all I could think of was this poem by Shel Silverstein:

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I came across it ages ago and pinned it straight away.  I just love it so much, even though it actually makes me feel quite sad.  The idea of two people searching for each other, but missing out on finding one another because they were both hiding their true selves just breaks my heart!

I do think the poem has an important message though, and one that is ultimately uplifting – we might feel like we’re the only people who look a certain way or think a certain way, but unless we own it and show it to the world then we’ll never find the others out there that are like us or that are looking for someone just like us.  So whoever you are, just be YOU, be the most you that you can possibly be!

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Say yes more!

Back when I was a student at Swansea Uni one of my best friend’s housemates was a guy called Dave who wrote for the student newspaper, the waterfront.  He used to create and write the advice column under the name Doctor Dave, and included a few ‘problems’ in there mocking my friend for her tendency to sleep a fair bit.  I didn’t really know the guy that well, but I do remember that he always struck me as interesting; he used to carry a notebook with him where he’d write down funny and interesting things that people said to him, I think to look back on when he needed inspiration for writing.

Turns out he’s become a really inspirational person himself, post-uni.  He turned his back on the ‘traditional’ career path and has instead built an amazing life for himself.  He’s a record-breaking adventurer who’s been all around the world using unconventional modes of transport – his first expedition was a 3618 mile skateboard trip from Perth to Brisbane.  He’s choosing to live life on his terms, choosing to ‘say yes more‘ and seeing where it leads him.

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I’m feeling a bit of a shift in my thinking at the moment and I’m convinced that, if you’re open to it, the Universe sends you what you need at the right time.

What I need at the moment is positivity, and hearing stories of people enjoying life, enjoying success on their own terms.  So when this article from Dave popped up on my Facebook news feed the other day it was just what I needed!  In the article he writes about his simple rules for getting started with making a new life for yourself.  If you’re in need of a bit of positivity and some motivation then you should really go and read it.  For now, I’ll leave you with my favourite rule:

If you’re really floundering, remove the safety net, then you HAVE to fly. And you can fly, you really can.

Sound advice Dr Dave, thank you!
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5 words that make me cry

There are a few things that are almost guaranteed to make me well up.

When I have to say goodbye to my family after a visit.

Every time a new baby screams for the first time on ‘one born every minute’.

And these five words;

I got off the plane Friends quote

Seriously.  No matter how many times I watch the last episode of Friends I still feel my throat catching and the tears forming every time Ross is yelling at the answerphone and Rachel appears behind him.

Did she get off the plane?  Did she get off the plane?

I got off the plane.

Big, soppy happy tears. Every single time!

Please tell me I’m not the only one who feels like this?!

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