We all have times in our lives when things feel out of our control.
Chances are that at several points over the last few months you’ve felt that you have no power over what’s happening to you, and that life in general is out of your control.
At times like this it can be hard to see a way forward and all too easy to get into a negative spiral of believing there’s nothing you can do to make things better.
The thing to remember is that there is always something you can do to feel a bit more in control again.
These 3 ideas are a great place to start when you feel like life is out of your control.
Focus on what you CAN control
When life feels out of control, or something happens to you that you can’t do anything about, one of the first steps you can take to feel a bit better is focus on the things that you can control.
No matter what is going on in your life you can always control the way you react. You can choose hope over despair. You can choose to grab every single moment of joy instead of focusing on the sorrow.
You can also look at what you can control in your immediate environment. Declutter and clean your room or your home. Tidy up your desk and do a digital declutter of all the files and photos on your computer and your phone.
If you want to you can take it a step further and think about what you can control for the future. As morbid as might sound, setting up a funeral plan with someone like Heart of England Funeral care can bring a strange sense of peace knowing things will be done the way you want should the worse happen.
You might also feel more in control of things if you set up life insurance and savings plans to start creating a sense of stability for the future.
Offer help to other people
When something bad happens and things feel out of your control it can be all too easy to turn inwards on ourselves and get completely caught up in our own feelings and worries.
A great way to fight this is to turn your attention to other people.
If other people are affected by the same situation as you, then see what you can do to help each other. Offer your skills, knowledge and support to people you know are also struggling.
Write it down and talk it through
When life feels completely out of your control or you’re facing a stressful life event it’s normal to feel a huge range of emotions.
The best thing you can do to help process them all is to get them all out.
Get all your thoughts, anxieties and feelings out instead of mulling them over and over in your head.
If you’re not ready to share how you’re feeling with anyone else then you can tackle this by writing it all down. Get a notebook and a pen and just write down everything you’re thinking and feeling. Don’t edit yourself. Don’t worry about making sense or being grammatically correct, just get it all out.
If you can manage it though, talking it all through with someone else is an even better option. Find someone you trust will simply listen to you, with no judgement, and talk with them about how you’re feeling.
And once you’ve done all that try and fit in some mindfulness activities each day to keep your mind calm and focused on the moment, rather than letting it drift back to the same thoughts and worries.
Disclosure: this is a collaborative post