Things I want my children to say ‘yes’ to

I wrote a post the other day inspired by Dave Cornthwaite’s message to ‘say yes more’.

It’s something I’m really thinking about a lot at the moment.

I’m quite a cautious person, and my natural immediate response to things outside of my comfort zone is to say ‘no’.  Which makes me quite sad.  As I get older I’m getting much more aware of the power of pushing out of that comfort zone and saying ‘yes’ to things.

And I really want my children to grow up with an awareness of how exciting and wonderful like can be if you say yes more.

5 things I want my children to say yes to (1)


These are the big things I want my children to say yes to:

New experiences

I don’t want my children to be afraid of trying new things and visiting new places.  I want them to say yes to new experiences, to be open to the idea that, yes, there’s a possibility they might not like it but there’s an equal possibility that they’ll absolutely love it!


New friends

I’m all for my children having a close little group of friends, I think it’s incredibly important for them to have people outside of the family that they can talk to and confide in.  But I don’t want them to limit their social interactions to their existing friends.

You never know what impact a person can have on your life; I want my children to be open to letting new people in.



This is a tricky one I know, but I really hope for my children that they can embrace the possibility of failure.

I want them to know that they don’t have to win everything, that it’s really ok if they fail at something.  A lot of the times that you learn the most about life and yourself is when you fail at something.


Being true to themselves

I know that it’s really hard when you’re a kid (and then a teenager) and you so badly just want to fit in, but I really want my children to say yes to being true to who they are.

I want them to own their quirks and embrace what makes them them.



When it comes their way I want my children to say a huge ‘yes’ to love.

I want them to love with their whole hearts, openly and completely.  Yes they risk getting hurt that way, but it’s the only way to really love isn’t it?  Have a read of this quote that I wrote about recently – it sums up what I want to tell my children about love.


What things would you wish for your children to say a big ‘yes’ to?



  1. 05/05/2017 / 3:22 am

    Lovely post and I totally agree, especially with the failure one. As adults we’re often so scared of failure, we don’t even try. That’s definitely something I don’t want S to have. #TheList

    • 05/05/2017 / 11:51 am

      Thank you, I know that I’ve viewed failure as such a negative thing in the past, I want my children to be able to embrace it and see that it’s the trying and the experience that matters most!

  2. 05/05/2017 / 8:41 am

    What a great list – I totally agree with all of them, and I especially love that you’ve added failure on the list. I think it’s really important to teach children that they aren’t going to win at everything in life but that that’s okay xx

    • 05/05/2017 / 11:52 am

      My son is going through a phase where everything seems to be about ‘winning’, we’re having to talk a lot at the moment about how it’s ok to not win all the time! x

  3. 05/05/2017 / 9:41 am

    Great list. It is really hard not to pass on our insecurities and worries – I can pinpoint hundreds of things my mum passed down to me without meaning to! Being aware of it is surely the way to go.
    Alice x

    • 05/05/2017 / 11:54 am

      Being a parent is so hard though isn’t it, I think whatever you do you end up passing things on to your children! I’m very conscious of trying not to pass my own fears on to my children, but I’m sure in the process I’ll create other issues for them, lol! x

  4. 05/07/2017 / 2:58 am

    This is very true – I totally agree. I want my son to have an open mindset and to have an open mindset you have to be prepared to say yes to almost everything and not be scared of failure. Out of our greatest challenges come our greatest achievements and I want my son to accept the challenge.

    • 06/07/2015 / 11:11 am

      “Out of our greatest challenges come our greatest achievements” – I love that! x

  5. 05/07/2017 / 10:10 am

    Ah this is such a lovely post. I hope they say yes to all these things too. Thanks so much for linking up to #TheList x

  6. 06/08/2015 / 3:05 am

    I joined in a blogging meme recently which was 5 Things I Want My Children to Learn and basically, you’ve just incorporated most of mine! I think embracing new experiences is a big one for me – enjoying life 🙂

    • 06/11/2015 / 9:49 am

      Love that we had the same thoughts! Will have to check that meme out! x

  7. 06/10/2015 / 5:50 pm

    Great list. Saying yes to failure, though, yikes. I agree it’s important to learn, but I struggle with that, so teaching it is a challenge.

    • 06/11/2015 / 9:51 am

      Yeah, that’s a big one! Honestly, it’s something I struggle with too, but I’m hoping that by pushing myself out of my comfort zone and letting my children see me potentially fail then we can all learn together that it’s really ok!

  8. 04/09/2017 / 9:49 pm

    This is lovely! I, too, could be better at saying “yes” and I agree with all the areas you mention here for your children. #fancyacoffeefriday

    • 04/03/2018 / 1:43 pm

      I think that’s part of why I like thinking about, and writing, posts like this because it makes me more aware of the person I want to be, as well as what I wish for my children! x

  9. 04/09/2017 / 10:00 pm

    Honestly, I’d just like them to say yes to trying new foods! They’re really not good at that. But aside from that, everything you’ve said here rings true for me too :). #fancyacoffeefriday

    • 04/03/2018 / 1:41 pm

      Haha, yes, I should add that to my list really, my kids aren’t great at that at the moment! x

  10. 04/10/2017 / 9:45 am

    Lovely list. Its so nice that you are actually taking time out to give these areas some thought. Making new friends and having a wide circle of friend is a good one. Kids can get a bit stuck and the earlier they are more aware of having lots of different friends and interests the better.
    mainy – myrealfairy

    • 04/03/2018 / 1:39 pm

      My son does have a close little group of friends, but he often comes home from school talking about how he’s spent time with other children in his class that day and it really makes me happy to hear that he’s mixing with everyone and being open to lots of possible friendships. x

  11. 04/01/2018 / 8:10 pm

    Wouldn’t that be lovely if all parents had the same outlook with their children, this world would be such a better place to live in. A really lovely list to read 🙂 thank you for linking up to #fancyacoffeefriday

    • 04/03/2018 / 1:24 pm

      Thank you for hosting! And thanks for your lovely comment. x

  12. Petite Pudding
    04/10/2017 / 11:50 am

    a lovely list, teaching children to love, make friends and accept failure is so important. Ir we can al teach children to say yes to these thins hopefully there generation will be the happiest yet 🙂 #fancyacoffeeefriday

    • 04/03/2018 / 1:37 pm

      It’s something to strive for isn’t it! x

  13. Mammy
    21/09/2018 / 11:57 am

    Hope I didn’t pass on too many negatives! As a teenager, I wanted to be a bit different to everybody else, not follow the crowd, and that worked for me (most of the time )
    Lovely post, and great to see so many positive responses.

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