They really are.
But, they’re not easy. You sometimes need to put a little bit of work in to keep them on track.
This little tip though, is a pretty easy and fun way to help improve things in your relationship.
Researchers at the University of Rochester carried out a study of couples in the early stages of marriage and found that divorce rates were cut in half for couples who watched romantic films together and then talked about them afterwards.
The study looked at couples in their first 3 years of marriage and found that watching a film every week that has a romantic relationship as a main part of the plot and then discussing it afterwards was as effective at preventing divorce as other, more intensive relationship therapies.
Now, the key seems to be the discussion afterwards, where the newly-weds would answer specific questions about the couple in the film and how they dealt with various issues.
They were encouraged to discuss if they dealt with things the same way as the film couple.
It seems to me that the main thing to take away from this is the importance of talking openly and honestly with our partners about our relationships, and to acknowledge how we might sometimes handle things the wrong way and work to resolve issues in a healthier way.
So, if you feel like your relationship could do with a bit of tlc, try putting on a romcom and then having a bit of chat about it afterwards. Sounds like a pretty painless way to start communicating again.
Unless you’re like my husband and really can’t stand those kind of films, in which case, think a little outside the box. We don’t watch any of my collection of romcoms together, but we did watch all of How I met your mother together – perfect for sparking discussions about relationships!
And remember, the key here really is the discussions afterwards, if you can find any way to start talking about couples and how they might deal with various issues then you’re on to a winner.
So what are your thoughts on this? Do you watch these kinds of films together as a couple? Do you naturally tend to discuss relationships (fictional or otherwise) together?