We had a bit of a quiet week last week. We’ve all been feeling a bit worn out and run down and both the children have been sniffling and coughing a fair bit.
So we didn’t really get up to much beyond the normal school routine.
Which means I didn’t really take many photos other than the headshots of the children that I try to take every day. So this week’s living arrows is from just before bedtime one evening; a quick snapshot of my funny girl.
Nerys has been rocking pigtails pretty much every day for the last week or so.
She asked me to do them one morning, with three clips on each side too, because that’s the way her friend at school has her hair and “she looks beautiful every morning”!
I find it fascinating that at three she already has this idea of beauty. That she is starting to look at other people and think of them as being beautiful. I’m also aware that I do tell her a fair bit that she’s pretty/lovely/beautiful. And I know that there are some people out there who argue that we shouldn’t say these things to our daughters.
But you know what?
I think she is pretty, and lovely, and beautiful. So why shouldn’t I tell her that?
I also tell her most days how wonderful it is that she is so tall and strong. That she is so kind and thoughtful. I tell her that I’m proud of her for trying hard at school.
Hearing a mix of all these things will, hopefully, give her a strong foundation of self-confidence for when she grows older.
What do you think about this? Should we try and avoid talking about the way our children look, or is it ok to tell them that they’re pretty/handsome/beautiful?