Listen to the little things

Rhys is a talker.

Some days it feels like all he does is talk.  He’ll talk to himself as he’s playing, and he’ll talk to us at every possible opportunity.

And, honestly, some days it’s just exhausting.

Some days I long for a few moments of quiet.

Some days I don’t really want to hear about Minecraft or Roblox or Pokemon.

There are times when I have to ask him to please, just hush for a bit.  Just give me 5 minutes of quiet.

And then I feel bad.  I feel awful asking my son to stop talking.

Because he just wants to share with me.

“Listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you, no matter what. If you don't listen eagerly to the (4)

My son wants to talk to me about the things he’s passionate about.  And is it his fault that I’m not passionate about those things too?

No.  It’s really not.

At his age, it’s not his job to edit what he talks about.  Or how much he talks about it.

It is my job to listen to him.  To at least try to be interested in the things he cares about.

It’s not easy.

And I hate to admit it but there are times when I let my lack of interest show.  There are times when I sigh at hearing the words, “Mummy, can I tell you something?” for the 20th time that hour.  Because I know it’ll be another thing about something he’s seen in Minecraft.

But I am so aware that I need to listen more.  And to listen with interest.

I need to listen now to the things that matter to him.  Because I need him to know that he can talk to me and that I will hear him.

As he gets older I want him to be able to open up to me.  To tell me what’s on his mind.  To discuss his hopes and fears and dreams with me.

If listening to his endless chatter about Minecraft now means he’ll talk to me about the big issues when he’s older, then surely it’s worth it.

I just need to remember that it’s also ok to take breaks every now and then, even if it’s just leaving the room to put the washing on, or make a cup of tea.  Just to relish the quiet for a second!

 

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  1. Alana - Burnished Chaos 15/02/2017 / 3:48 pm

    This sounds exactly like my son, he started talking at 6 months and hasn’t stopped since. He even talks in his sleep! It can be exhausting at times but you’re right, it’s important to listen now so they come to you in the future. I need to remember this x
    #CandidCuddles

  2. Mummy and the Mexicans 18/02/2017 / 3:22 pm

    You’re right, it’s so important to listen to what they want to tell you. A lot of the time it’s actually really difficult to understand what my daughter’s trying to tell me, or she makes up a funny little narrative that doesn’t make much sense (she’s not quite three), but the important thing is listening and getting involved and being present with her in that moment. It’s not always easy when I’ve just got home from work and am rushing to get dinner ready, though…. #CandidCuddles

  3. absolutely prabulous 19/02/2017 / 8:55 pm

    You know the funny thing is I came across this quote about a year ago and it is honestly breath-taking I admit. But I’ll be honest, I’m constantly telling my eldest to be quiet because she literally does. not. stop. talking. And it is frankly exhausting because most of it is just to show she’s in the room! I love the sentiment of this quote and the bizarre thing is that I keep seeing it again and again the last month or so (probably a lesson in there somewhere for me personally). I think at the end of the day we do so much for our kids that I just can’t beat myself up for not being the totally 100% switched on mummy because in my view they actually need to learn that not everything is about them and I can’t just drop what I’m doing and give them my undivided attention all the time and sometimes they just need to take a ticket and wait in the queue. But I do get where you’re coming from. Thanks for another gorgeous quote on #candidcuddles my dear.

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