If you’ve spent any time on my blog you’ll most likely know that I feel quite strongly about us parents being in more photos.
There are lots of excuses people give for not getting in front of the camera more, but one of the main ones is that they just don’t like the way the look in photos.
I really do get that.
And while I honestly believe that you should just do it anyway (because your children will just see their wonderful mum and dad in photos, and not the imperfections that you see) I know it’s not always that easy.
So, how about I give you an out.
What if I tell you that you don’t always have to show your face in photos.
You can still exist in photos, even if you don’t always show your face in them.
What you can capture instead, are the little details of who you are. The moments that mean something to you, that capture the parent that you are right now.
Like this photo I took last year. You can’t see my face, but it’s still me. Wrapped up in a cosy knitted top. Clutching a mug of coffee. A mug that I can’t really use now that Rhys is older and can read pretty well – it’s my ‘for fox sake’ mug, that still makes me laugh to myself now. The little scram on my hand from the metal unit that stores our bird seed.
All those little details make this photo a pretty good representation of the me of last year.
Try looking for those little details about yourself that you can photograph. Maybe you can hide behind a copy of your favourite book. Or take a shot from above of the boots you always wear on the school run.
This next picture was taken by my husband, on a walk on the beach. Again, you can’t see my face but it’s still ME. On the beach, where we so often go as a family. In my bright pink wellies, with a little hint of my bright pink jacket showing. And my jeans. I’m always in jeans, I don’t think my children ever really see me in anything else!
The other thing you can try is taking photos from your perspective. Show yourself in photos, by using them to show your view of the world.
Your hand holding your child’s hand. Or steadying their scooter.
You could photograph your hand holding a cup of coffee, with a living room filled with toys in the background. Your hand as you push your baby’s buggy. The view you see looking down at all the school bags you’re juggling on the way home from the school run!
There are so many possibilities when you start thinking about it, and start looking for ways to exist in photos without showing your face.
Now I’m not saying you can get away with this forever. You really do need to have some photos taken of you that actually show what you look like at some point. But in the meantime, to ease yourself in, try some of these suggestions!
If you do, please share them with me on Instagram using #ShowYouWereThere – I’d love to see them.